The Effects Of Lying In Relationships

The Effects Of Lying In Relationships

When was the last time you lied to your partner? And why did you do it?

It’s time to change this habit for good using this multi track recording the trust you have lost can be rebuild. Lying is habituated behaviour usually driven by either fear of someone feeling badly towards you or the desire to be 'accepted', or liked. I work to repattern these thoughts to allow you to express yourself truthfully and feel good about doing so.

Some people will struggle to remember the time or even the reason. But for other people the answer to the first question could well be ‘Today’. And there could be lots of answers to the second question.

Compulsive lying puts any relationship on an uncertain footing. Think how your partner must feel if they know you are more likely to tell a lie than the truth. If you were to quit being a liar however, and stop telling lies on a regular basis, you might be surprised by how much stronger your relationship will become over time.
Why do people lie to their partners?

Ironically the reason is often to protect their partner. For example, one man decided to start lying to his wife when his business started to have financial difficulties. Although he was trying to keep her from finding out the awful truth, it came out eventually anyway – and the fallout was much worse than it would have been had he decided to stop telling lies right from the start.

The constant lying meant that when his wife did find out, she immediately lost her trust in him. And that kind of trust takes a long time to rebuild.
The snowball effect

It could be that you think your little white lies are doing no harm to your relationship. But if this is the case then you might want to reconsider – because the only way to conserve the trust you have is to stop telling lies altogether.

You see, what often happens is that someone will tell a small lie to a partner in order to smooth over a situation or avoid a confrontation. It works perfectly, so the next time the situation comes up they do exactly the same thing. There seems to be no reason for them to stop telling lies because they are making the relationship more settled.

But gradually and surely the honesty and trust are both being eroded. The snowball effect also means that it becomes more and more tempting to lie about bigger things – even when there is no real reason to do so. It becomes harder to stop telling lies, and that slippery slope has led from a simple white lie to something much darker instead

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